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I cancelled my Retreat venue 31 days before Money Magic 3.0

I cancelled my Retreat venue 31 days before Money Magic 3.0

by | Aug 16, 2026 | Mindset & Inspiration, Opinion + POV | 0 comments

I cancelled my retreat venue for Money Magic 3.0: Tribe Edition.

31 days before the event.

The venue looked fantastic. It had the aesthetic, the right kind of rooms and the kind of online presence that makes you think, “Yes, is it.”

But… beautiful pictures are not the same as a beautiful experience.
And after a series of communications that did not meet the standard I expect for myself or my clients, I knew I had to make a decision.

 

Why you ask?

 

I was born and raised in Bermuda until I was 10 years old. My childhood was shaped by amazing 5 star hotels and restaurants. Not average high-street spaces, but places that served high-profile guests, actors, presidents, prime ministers and more. This isn’t showing off, it’s fact.

My Daddy was Head Maître d’ for more than 40 years (click to see a picture of him on Instagram)
He worked in incredible places including the Fairmont’s Southampton Princess, and he was loved by both guests and colleagues. Through him, I learned what real hospitality feels like.

One of my favourite space was “Midway” or The Empire Room, which was a famous, iconic 600-seat nightclub and showroom with a tiered layout and classic velvet horseshoe booths. They were the signature design features that defined the venue’s legendary, high-end “dinner theatre” atmosphere.

Jess Wares “Begin Again” is a tune and video that reminds we of… seeing my Daddy working on a higher tier, watching the room, the guests, making sure his teams were on point, people had what they wanted, drinks and food was served hot and to the right tables, while watching The Follies on stage.  As I write this, I’m smiling and filling up at the same time.

Listen here…

It is not just clean rooms, good food or a lovely view.

It is communication. Anticipation. Attention. This is literally why I do what I do.

The feeling that you are wanted, not tolerated. The knowledge that somebody has thought about your experience before you even arrive.

 

This is why I have high standards

 

Not because I am trying to be difficult or because I expect perfection. I am human, I fall short at times and I understand that businesses sometimes get things wrong.

But I do expect care.

I expect communication that makes people feel valued rather than like an interruption to someone’s day, and like an afterthought. Wanting people to have transformation and not be treated like a transaction. Wanting them to understand where I (and my clients) am coming from. They saw “a complaint” and acted like a child being told off, rather than a leader who could learn from the feedback and do better. Perspective.

Not once did I complain. I gave feedback. There is a difference. Waiting sometimes over a week for a response, at times no acknowledgement of a request, and when it was replied to, blame was thrown onto my clients. That is not hospitality. It was arrogance and ignorance dressed as a consultant.

Also, I know people are busy. I know we are not always right. This is about how you do what you do, not just the what.

When I felt things were missing, I had to ask myself a hard question:

Am I happy putting the people, my clients, who trust me into this space?

The answer was no. “That’ll do” is not in my vocabulary.

 

There were a number of signs

 

I also need to remember that the United Kingdom isn’t Bermuda (because sometimes I don’t). Bermuda is one of the richest places in the world, by Money made per person (GDP). 5 star here isn’t, 5 star there. So I quieted my mind and said no, it’s OK. I can see us there, it’s going to be great… but I was trying to convince myself and that is something I NEVER do.

Convincing to me is… taking someone’s power away and replacing it with your own/or someone else’s “idea” of what it could be. I realised I was in love with the idea of what it could be, not with what it was.

Influencing is what I prefer and not what influencing means now. I mean, allowing people to make their own decision, based on feeling, instinct, intuition and mine was being taken over by a place that looked good, but didn’t feel right.

 

This is where the wobble started…

 

Saturday evening, I had a wobble. Cancelling a venue this close to a Retreat is not a small decision. My brain had plenty to say… “Amanda! What are you doing?”

“OMG… What if you cannot find anything else?”

“Will this makes everything harder?”

Then I remembered who I am.

  1. I am a Daniels. Excellence is in my bones and is one of my values and while all of this was happening I looked up at the same picture I’ve shared with you of my Daddy. He whispered… “You know what to do“.
  2. I’m a Customer Journey and EX/UX Specialist. I understand that every interaction shapes how someone feels about a business, a space and themselves. The interactions my clients were having were NOT what I wanted them to have or continue to have.
  3. Koogar was created because I believe people deserve better than below-par service dressed up in nice branding. “Deserve better” is literally why Koogar was born, because people were not getting what they deserved, they were getting ripped off and rubbish outcomes.

 

Back to Money Magic…

 

Money Magic (and my guests) deserves a venue that does more than look good.

It needs a space that can hold the depth, transformation, conversations and human beings inside it, while also delivering the care, communication and quality that make people feel truly looked after.

So I am on the hunt for a better, bolder and more experienced venue.

Because standards are not being picky.

Standards are how you show (and tell) people: you matter here and you matter to me.

More importantly, my Daddy would be proud in how I have handled this situation. Just as he would.

25 things I learned from the Year of the Snake in 2025

25 things I learned from the Year of the Snake in 2025

by | Feb 18, 2026 | Energy + Spirituality, Mindset & Inspiration | 0 comments

2025, my Year of the Snake was not a “cute spiritual theme”.

It was a year of shedding, truth‑telling and becoming someone I didn’t always recognise but deeply needed to meet.

Here are 25 things I learned from the Year of the Snake:

  1. Not everyone is rooting for you. And that’s okay
    Some people love the older version of you because it keeps them comfortable. Your growth will trigger people who benefit from your smallness and until you know your worth, it will be a place you will remain. I chose not to.
  2. Clutter is a spell that keeps you stuck
    Physical, digital, offer clutter, relationship clutter, it all whispers “you can’t move yet”. Clearing it is an act of courage and self‑respect. I clear my spaces at home and work, I removed things I did and went to that didn’t serve me, including people, conversations and attitudes.
  3. Courage doesn’t feel glamorous in the moment
    My word of the year was “Courage”, and most of the time it felt like shaky hands, racing heart, and doing it anyway. I made a list of the things that sacred me at the beginning of the year and EVERY month, I ticked one off, if not a few. Let me tell you, it was a ride and one most didn’t know was happening.
  4. Silence is feedback
    When a room goes quiet after you speak your truth, that’s data. It doesn’t mean you were wrong, it means you stopped performing and have been able to speak your truth and hold the space that comes after it, knowing that you stood for what you believe in.
  5. My nervous system is the real CEO
    If my body didn’t feel safe, nothing moved. Not the offers, not the content, not the Money. I didn’t go for the things I wanted, I desired and would love, so regulating myself became a business strategy, not a bonus. Something that happens EVERY DAY and came in many different forms.
  6. Some clients/people are meant for an older version of you
    And when you upgrade your identity, not all of them come with you. Last year for me was a time where I decided I wanted more and that I was going for it, because staying where I was, wasn’t an option. Releasing clients before the end of their time made space for the people who can actually meet me now AND where I want to go. This is exciting.
  7. Snake energy is about precision
    I learned to do less, better. Fewer offers, clearer messaging, more intentional marketing, instead of constantly reinventing the wheel. I also changed somethings which sounds obvious but most people dont, they add on top of instead of removing or completely change for the fear of “it not working”. Becoming more focused on what I would love, the types of relationships and conversations I want to have become a necessity, dialling in was my key. This is knowing that your higher-self wants more!
  8. You can be kind and still have sharp boundaries
    Kindness without boundaries is self‑abandonment. Kindness with boundaries is leadership. It shows people how to treat you, what you will tolerate and that youre not here to be a push over. For too many years I pandered to others at my own expense. Now, I discovered what is important to me because if I dont stick with my boundaries and values, they get crushed.
  9. Stepping into uncertainty is a muscle
    The first time feels like free‑fall. The tenth time feels like, “Oh, this is the bit before the breakthrough.” I’ve been in business 20 years in Nov 2026, so the uncertainty piece is something I know and live, however, I see MANY business owners struggle with it, when it is part of the entrepreneurial and spiritual journey. They are one in the same.
  10. My “too much” is my magic
    Every part of me I tried to tone down, be that my depth, honesty or intensity ended up being what my people were searching for. It was a breath of fresh air for them to meet someone who could hold space, without judgment, be truthful in every part of the connection and want the best for you. The way I am, is what only a few want. Ive learnt that be not fitting in or being part of the clique is what MY people are desperately searching for, so when I show up, their words are… “where have you been”
  11. Money responds to clarity, not chaos
    When I got clear on what I was selling, to who, and why… Money started moving. Confused offers make for confused income. So, stripping things back, making my offers easier to understand and implement allowed people to move closer, quicker. January this year has been my best January for years!
  12. Marketing gets easier when you stop lying (to yourself)
    Lying looks like… pretending you’re okay with your prices, pretending you love a niche that bores you, pretending you’re fine with being invisible when youre not. This is about lying to yourself, energy doesn’t lie and people pick up on that so when you can move based on your nature and in your own way, your marketing becomes something you enjoy, love to share and feels good.
  13. You can outgrow strategies you once prayed for
    The systems, programs, and plans that once felt exciting can start to feel like a skin that’s too tight. It’s okay to thank them and move on. What got you here, won’t necessarily get you where you want to go. Changing what you do, your routine, can be hard and the “being okay with uncertainty” will show in your actions.
  14. Rest is not a reward, it’s a requirement
    Snake medicine slowed me down. I created better work when I wasn’t constantly proving my productivity. As a Manifestor in Human Design (the Initiators), we dont move at the same speed as most, which is constantly. Our movement is based on urges and they are not every day at the same time, we move when we have an urge, so tapping into that has allowed me to work less, earn more and rest when I need to.
  15. Some bridges needed to burn
    Not in a dramatic way, just in a quiet, “I don’t chase, explain or perform for you anymore” kind of way. A number of people treated me in a way I didn’t like and I needed to remove myself from their presence to never return. At first it felt like I was cutting my nose off despite my face, but then realised once the cords were cut, my energy was drained, taken or abused and that felt good.
  16. Your work deepens when you let yourself deepen
    The more inner work I did around Money, identity and visibility, the more powerful and precise my outer work became. Since changing to an Identity Architect, Ive realised this is what my clients come to me for. To understand more about them, how they move, what makes them tick and how they can create a business that allows them to be them, when I gave that gift to myself, everything became easier.
  17. There’s a difference between privacy and hiding
    I learned which parts of my life are sacred (kept close) and which parts are medicine (shared with my community). Not everything has to be shared with everyone. Some people think they can’t share anything, while others think everyone NEEDS to know their story, the truth is there is a balance.
  18. Your business can’t outgrow your self‑concept
    Until I saw myself as the successful mixed woman who could hold more Money, more impact and more responsibility, the business kept looping at the same level. You know when you hit a ceiling and can’t get past it? That. Your identity is the key to your next level; you need to be able to go there and do the work on yourself.
  19. You don’t have to fix everything at once
    Snake sheds in stages. I learned to work layer by layer, pattern by pattern, instead of trying to become a new person overnight. Incremental improvements, just like one of my marketing Oracle Cards say. That compound effect then becomes bigger over time.
  20. Grief is part of expansion
    Saying goodbye to old identities, roles and relationships hurts, even when you know they’re complete. Grieving them made space for something truer. Being able to say goodbye to things takes time and a moment of acceptance. It’s not like a flick or a switch.
  21. You can be spiritual and love Money
    Money became less of a monster and more of a mirror. It showed me where I still doubted my worth and where I was ready to receive. All levels create a new devil and it’s about being able to hold more.
  22. Your voice gets clearer the more you use it
    Every post, every live and every conversation sharpened my message. Waiting to be “ready” was just another skin to shed. My voice has been a problem since I was born and something that I know is very powerful when I use it, so I’ve been using it more and more. In voice notes, content, calls, DMs, speaking, lives, virtual coffees… The more I use it, the better it becomes and my messaging. AI is great, but it’s not the holy grail as some will lead you to believe.
  23. The right people feel like a deep exhale
    Clients, collaborators and friends where you don’t have to translate yourself. THAT is the Eco-System™ you’re allowed to build. Last years I collaborated with someone to be the Cacao Facilitator and she said “the last person she had made it feel clunky, like she didn’t know what to do, and you just did it… It was nurturing and powerful. It was easy with you“. This is the type of relationships we want, not competitive, comparative or clay. I want them to feel like a hug, always. See my success stories.
  24. Snake years are about honesty
    I stopped pretending and hiding what I wanted, what I was tolerating, what I was done with. Radical honesty became a love language to myself because I had started crushing my potential, dreams and desires. When we speak out loud the things that we would love, like being the change in the world I want to see, planting a million trees, making a million pounds, travelling the world to speak, writing a New York Time best seller and more, it becomes something that drives me, something I can believe in and lean into.
  25. I’m not done shedding
    The point wasn’t to become a “finished product”. The point was to learn how to shed gracefully, again and again, without making myself wrong for evolving. The “work” is never done, there is always a new iteration of it to be revealed, reflected and removed.

What tools did I use?

Through all of this, the Marketing Oracle Cards, the Magnetic Codes and my 365 Daily Cacao Ritual became my council. They helped my intuition, tapped into my truth and deepened my essence.

I used them to:

  • Name the skin I was shedding in my business that week. A pricing pattern, a visibility fear or an old identity.
  • Check in with my word of the year, Courage, and ask, “What does Courage look like today, in a practical way?”
  • Get honest about where I was still cluttered. In my offers, content, relationships, boundaries or Money mindset.
  • Confirm the decisions my body already knew were right, even when my mind wanted to cling to the old.

They didn’t give me a 10‑step plan.

They gave me truth, focus, and one clear next move when I was swimming in uncertainty.

If you’ve felt the energy of this last year too, the shedding, the truth‑telling and that quiet courage having these things in your life means you’re not just relying on willpower between moments.

2025 changed my life in many ways…

If you’re ready to keep shedding what no longer fits and grow a business that actually feels like you, you can order your own Marketing Oracle Cards and make this kind of check‑in a regular ritual.

The Year of the Snake might be closing, but the art of shedding and becoming. That gets to continue with more clarity, more courage, and more conviction.

How was your year of the snake? 2025.

Leave me a comment…

How to choose your Word of the Year (2023)

How to choose your Word of the Year (2023)

by | Jan 10, 2023 | Mindset & Inspiration | 0 comments

A word of the year has become an exercise taken up by those wanting to be intentional and on purpose with what they are looking at achieve and moving into the next cycle.

Whether your year ends on the traditional date on 31st of December, Solstice, Equinox or on Chinese New Year celebrating the lunisolar and solar year, one cycle ends, and another begins.

So how do you choose a word, words or phrase of the year?

First, why choose a Word of the Year?

It sets an intention so that every action you take for an entire year has some meaning behind it and it keeps you on track to deliver on your dreams.

This could also be an alternative to goal setting.

Every decision, idea, thought and action you take will be based on this word and if the thing you are about to do is in alignment.

There are times when we stray off the path, because of someone or something else’s desires seem more important than your own. This serves no one!

5 Steps to choose your Word of the Year?

 

1. Reflect

What has happened in 2022? Think of the good, bad and indifferent. List it all and take your time to summarise.

2. Vision

What is your vision for the year ahead? What would you like to achieve? Personally and professionally and what will it all look like.

3. Feelings

Now you see what you want / would love to achieve, how will this make you feel. Journal on what it is like when you have accomplished all the things in your Vision.

4. 3-5 words

Choose between 3 and 5 words and sift through them and work out which one is the most motivational word for you based on steps 1,2,3.

5. Become

You have reflected, envisioned, felt and now you need to become. Become the person who has already achieved the things in your vision.

Let me know how you get on with choosing the word for 2023 and what it means to you and please share your word/words and your why.

When we share our truth and are witnessed, magic happens!

My Word of the Year is…

 

Full Power!

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Amanda's (Koogar's) word of the year

Lessons from Bridgerton…

Lessons from Bridgerton…

by | Feb 16, 2021 | Mindset & Inspiration, Opinion + POV | 0 comments

Have you watched Bridgerton?

I’m not going to lie… I’m a little late to the game and have only just started watching it. Now on Episode 6 and WOW!

It wasn’t what I expected and I love it for many reasons.

I’m a movie buff and love the cinematography, sound and of course the stories, but what I love about Bridgerton the most is the diversity and the unexpected twists it keeps producing.

How people speak, the vibrancy and colour in every scene, the costumes and music is fabulous.

But what I really wanted to talk about was the love.

You may have noticed that Daphne didn’t go for the obvious choice, she went after something that was just outside her reach, something that some didn’t believe was possible and stuck to her guns when it came to marrying for love.

 

Life is short

If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

Figuring out what you’re passionate about is what keeps you going when things get a little tough. However, trying to figure out exactly what you love to do can be challenging.

The current climate is testing us all right now.

People are exhausted, a little absent-minded (due to our environments and the new things we must do), bored, frustrated and longing for the life we used to have.

 

I get it

So how can you add colour, music into your life or change the way you speak to yourself or others?

Your environment is one of the most influential things in your life and because it is not “normal” right now, things feel difficult.

Here are a few things to rekindle your passion with what you do:

    1. Try new things – what have you always wanted to do and never had the time? I have personally signed up for a few new courses. Jungian Archetypes and Customer Experience are two that I’m doing at the weekends.

      Or get more creative.

    2. Rearrange, change or add to your environment – your desk, office, home, garden, inbox. Add some colour, music to your space and make it uplifting and a place you enjoy being.

    3. Stay true to you – this is about setting and sticking to boundaries. You know that when you cross them, things take a turn for the worst. So, stand your ground and be you!

    4. Forget about the money – when you fixated on it, want, need or are desperate for it, it stays away for longer. When you are in your zone genius and doing what you love, the money will flow to you!

    5. Change the way you speak to yourself (and others) – stop with the negative, comparison, bitching, moaning or anything else that is not positive and coming from a place of love.

      Words (spoken or unspoken) are more powerful than you think.

Setting an intention and coming from a place of love, will put you in a different frame of mind, things will become easier, you become more grateful and can push through anything when you realign to your passions.

You are worth it!

 

 

Forget Marketing, Think Alignment! What I mean by this, is to have everything working as you want it to; your business, getting great clients, making more money, feeling good…

It is all about alignment and putting things in the right order.

Frustrations with Marketing

Frustrations with Marketing

by | Oct 14, 2020 | Mindset & Inspiration, Social Media | 0 comments

Have you ever found yourself sitting and wondering WTF you are doing? Questioning your every move and wondering what you are doing wrong? You are doing everything you are supposed to and even have “professionals” telling you what to do.

You lean in on their learning, follow the recipe and do what they say and still nothing.

Crickets.

No clients.

Like you are speaking into a void that time forgot.

WTF is the point

 

Frustration gets stronger and brings the tears. Tears of commitment, devotion and hard work that you put in for years and yet you are still in the same place as you have been for many of them?

I hear you.

I hear you loud and clear.

And what I need to say is this.

Welcome to Entrepreneurship

 

The journey is long and bumpy, there are no guarantees you will get to your destination, but enjoy the ride.

The ups are up, and the downs feel like you have fallen off a cliff and there are times when you just CANNOT bounce back no matter how much you try.

You watch the affirmation videos on YouTube, meditate, get into the right head space, read books, learn something new every day, but it’s not enough.

It is not satisfying.

Because you are not getting anywhere.

This happens because your faith in yourself (and or your business) is waning.

You need to keep believing and have faith, like in Santa and Magic!

“Faith is having the audacity to believe in the not yet seen” – Jen Sincero, You are a Badass

There are times you want to give up and get a proper job, but let’s be honest, that’s not you anymore.

It makes me shudder to think about going back to the corporate world where most go unheard and are misunderstood. How does it make you feel?

So, here’s what I propose

 

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and bounce the fuck back!

You have so much to give in the world and they haven’t seen your all yet.

There are those that are all over social only showing the good side not the dark, but I see your shadows. The imposter, comparison, not worthy or undeserving.

The strange thing is, I see it and hear it, even when you don’t speak it.

Right now, I understand where you are and how you feel, because I have been there myself.

I see you, I hear you, I honour you and I love you.

You’ve got this, so keep going even if it gets harder. Bring a different game to the table and tap into the people work are working with more.

Step into your power and let that light shine bright. There maybe people out there “doing what you do” but they do not do it the way you do or have your je ne sais quoi!

Let’s talk when you are ready.

You’ve got this and I’ve got you!

Let’s Talk…

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Overwhelmed with Marketing? Why do you get it

Overwhelmed with Marketing? Why do you get it

by | Aug 7, 2019 | Mindset & Inspiration | 0 comments

Being overwhelmed with marketing and business happens to everyone and happens more than once a year. Overwhelm isn’t a one-off occurrence!

I’ve been looking into why it happens because I wanted to understand it more, to help myself and every single client I work with and have yet to work with.

How can we overcome it quicker, so we can get traction on our marketing and feel more comfortable doing it?

Before we can understand it and how it affects us individually, we must first know what it is.

 

The meaning of Overwhelm or being Overwhelmed

 – have a strong emotional effect

 – to cause someone to feel sudden strong emotion

 – defeat completely

 – be too strong for…

 – overpowering strength or effect

 

Overwhelm can be physical or emotional

It can be positive (as in overwhelmed with love and gratitude) but in most cases it’s a negative incident that can debilitate anyone, at any time for any reason.

Overwhelm is the very sense that something (or everything) is too big to manage.

It can cause anxiety, anger or make you become annoyed as well as worry, doubt yourself (including others around you) and make you feel helpless.

It can completely change your physical state and behaviour by causing panic attacks, upset, solitude and in worse cases violence.

Challenge is the pathway to engagement and progress in our lives. But not all challenges are created equal. Some challenges make us feel alive, engaged, connected, and fulfilled. Others simply overwhelm us. Knowing the difference as you set bigger and bolder challenges for yourself is critical to your sanity, success, and satisfaction. – Brendon Burchard

 

Stress and Anxiety are the biggest causes of overwhelm!

Stress vs Anxiety, how to Tell the Difference: https://www.psycom.net/stress-vs-anxiety-difference

 

What is overwhelm?

Being overwhelmed is your body’s way of defending and protecting you from crashing. It is telling you something and to be fair, you should listen. However, most people just battle through until they cannot move at all, which can come out in several ways;

  • Being even more busy than normal
  • Procrastination
  • Being clumsy and not doing anything well at all
  • Or paralyses

Either way, these are not the best modes to be in when wanting to get stuff done!

 

Why do we get overwhelmed?

It is a normal reaction to what we would deem as a difficult circumstance which is a “future thought“.

Some people get overwhelmed with what you may feel is a small and everyday task (like dealing with finances, speaking to family, just going to work) and others get overwhelmed with tasks so stressful that we cannot comprehend (i.e. landing a rocket on the moon or fixing a fault while in space).

Everyone’s threshold is different because of our experience and exposure to various elements throughout of lives.

A lot of overwhelm happens around things that are completely outside of our control and that we are trapped within the complications of life and business.

Unconsciously, we are happy to relive these negative thoughts and feelings over and over again, until we’ve had enough and sometimes not even then.

We keep putting ourselves through this pain and reliving the experiences, but they somehow get easier to deal with over time. They become our excuses from moving forward, partially some of the stories we keep telling ourselves and the reasoning behind why we are where we are.

Some people don’t work out what their triggers are or have coping methods to help them deal with their overwhelm. They just do whatever they need to do to survive and then once the feeling and thoughts have surpassed, they can try again.

Feeling overwhelmed is a primary emotional symptom of inner passivity, while procrastination is a primary behavioural symptom.

When left un-dealt with, overwhelm can then develop into a darker state where depression, helplessness and not seeing way out. Even thoughts of suicide can take over.

 

How you get overwhelmed?

Let’s go back to “future thought”.

This is our impression and perspective on our own lives, our current situation and what we must do for ourselves, but more so for others. For some reason, we only look after ourselves when we’ve looked after other people first.

You may be listening to too many people; marketers, gurus, mentors and coaches who are all telling you different things or even the same thing, and you’re unsure how to tackle the situation.

You may not ask the questions you want to ask because you feel you may come across stupid, incompetent to idiotic.

We worry about what other people think, how we will be perceived, what they will say about you and want to be seen as perfect. This isn’t just about you as an individual. It’s about everything; your lifestyle, your business and the messages you are putting out there.

 

What to do BEFORE you get overwhelmed?

Now you know a little more about what overwhelm is, why we get overwhelmed and a few reasons behind why you may get overwhelmed, how do we stop this from happening?

I’m not sure there is a quick fix for this question, but there are a number of things you could do;

 

Work out what triggers you

There are two things to look at here:

    1. What is the trigger – is there a specific type of work, person/people, situation, environment
    2. How do you know it’s about to happen – you may carry out a specific act or use particular words or have a specific feeling

Overwhelm creeps up on us. All of a sudden, it’s just there, because we haven’t been aware of it. If you can make a conscious effort to be more aware of yourself, your surroundings and situation you will find your trigger.

Keep a journal if you have to but find out what triggers it off.

 

Stop thinking too far into the future

Future thoughts. I know we set ourselves goals, aspire for something more or bigger, need a plan and need to future proof our businesses but at the time of marketing thinking about what you need to do RIGHT NOW is the most important thought you should have.

There is a book called “The One Thing”, do not busy yourself. Get that one thing done, tick it off your list and then move to the next.

Multitasking can bring on overwhelm!

To do lists are great but they also show us how much we have to do. When you remove the need to do EVERYTHING at once and focus on the one thing, you gain clarity and are then able to move forward.

When looking at your plan or calendar, look at the week and what you need to do for that. If that’s too much, stick with the day. Obviously, depending on your role in the business depends on how much marketing you need to do and how far in advance we need to schedule.

Focusing on one thing and then something else when you have finished allows you to be in the moment but also enables you to do the first thing properly.

Little and often is better than nothing and then everything.

“The Power of Now” is also another great book.

If you need to learn how to do something, plan in a CPD (Continued Professional Development) day so you are able to take the time to learn something and do it properly first-time round.

 

Create Coping Methods

When overwhelm is just about to set in, you need to have a set of coping methods that you can follow to bring you back down and refocus you.

One of the things I do in the office when overwhelm starts creeping is the process I discovered after I became aware/conscious of it;

How it manifests: I start to clean! Silly but it’s true. My desk, then the office and then…

Coping Method #1: End up leaving the office to move; walking/just get up and move around/stretch/fresh air

Coping Method #2: Get a drink (water not gin) and do something with my hands

Coping Method #3: After 10-20minutes, I come back, find paper and empty my head and I mean everything! Once I feel everything is out, I put in order of priority, so I know what my next task.

There are a few more, but they depend on the severity of the overwhelming feeling I’m having.

Yours will be different. You may add music and dance, speak to a colleague or family member, meditate to control your breathing or something else.

 

Getting overwhelmed with marketing happens because you believe it is a BIG task or there is so much to do.

You need to break that elephant down into smaller, manageable chunks.

But you know that already, don’t you…

 

The answer is simple, not easy. Nothing ever is!

The one thing I’d like you to take away from reading this blog is that overwhelm will happen. Not just with marketing. It will happen in life events, relationships, self-development and everything in between.

The main thing to do, is be aware of it so you can deal with it better than you have and quicker than before.

You already have skills in different areas of your life, maybe you just need to bring them into the marketing of the business.

Sometimes you have to stop thinking so much and just go where your heart takes you.

 

Finally…

I want you to know you are not alone.

Being overwhelmed can be a lonely place especially if you’re a Business Owner. The buck stops with you and sometimes family and friends just don’t get why you’re feeling the way you do.

You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with… – Jim Rohan

So, my question to you is… Who are your top 5 people?

They are the ones who will lift you up when you are down, understand where you are coming from and not judge you, listen to you without interruption or try to fix things until asked to.

These people are your power team. They don’t necessarily know each other but as a combination they all work well for you!

 

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Other blogs you may find useful…

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9 Reasons WHY you are NOT Taking Action

Have you ever been distracted by a Seagull?

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