You (and I) are not taking ENOUGH action and this is for a number of reasons! Here are 9 that I have heard from Business Owners recently –
REASON – There are so many people out there that are pushing themselves harder than I am
ANSWER – Pushing doesn’t make them better or more successful just pushier
REASON – Others are taking action even when things are not perfect
ANSWER – Perfection IS overrated. Done is better than perfect!
REASON – I’m a perfectionist
ANSWER – We all are, well most of us, some of us, one or two of us, ok only me then?! As above.
REASON – I’m not sure I’m as good as them
ANSWER – STOP comparing yourself to anyone else! Be the very best YOU can be in other words… Will it make the boat go faster?
REASON – Overwhelmed by the amount of information I’m receiving and what I SHOULD be doing
ANSWER – Do ONE thing at a time and do it WELL!
REASON – Wondering if people actually want to hear from me? i.e. Email Marketing
ANSWER – Until your unsubscribe rate is into double figures – assume they do!
REASON – Am I targeting the right client as no one is buying from me?
ANSWER – What are they currently buying? Are you selling what they are buying? Review products and services ALL the time!
REASON – What is it that I’m actually good at?
ANSWER – When are you in your flow what are you doing or what is your Genius?
REASON – How do I help people?
ANSWER – That’s a long new list and it’s probably not how you think you help them
These are some of the things going through Business Owners heads’ on a daily basis and they are VERY unhelpful comments about yourself, your life, your situation at home, who you are, where you want to be, what you want to do. Things are starting to seem a little alien to you and you are not moving forward. Instead you are getting more and more overwhelmed into a state of in-action!
You just want to be able to help people by answering their questions, making them feel more confident with what they are doing. You’d like to be happy every day with who you are and what you stand for but at the moment you are just annoyed with yourself.
Taking one step and even doing one job in the business is taking you SO LONG to do. Feeling like you are getting nowhere and that no one wants you or what you do. Wanting to hibernate forever and not do anything…
Another thought that pops up every now and again is…
Running a business is difficult and I’m not sure I one of those. It is more like a job with no boss and no direction…
THOUGHT – Being an entrepreneur is difficult and I’m not sure I am one. I feel like a fraud!
ANSWER – Great NEWS. Neither does anybody else!!!!!
Just know the current situation isn’t forever, your feelings are not forever and things will improve but you may not YET be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I could be to do with the lack of self confidence… So the question is…
What can you do to get out of this rut and this life you currently have? ONLY YOU HAVE THE ANSWER!
What are YOU afraid of?
FEAR – I’m afraid of change but know things are going to change… things have to change
CHOICE – Learning to embrace change is difficult but necessary within us all. It’s a changing world, dinosaurs became extinct because the world changed and they didn’t change with it
FEAR – I’m afraid of getting things wrong
CHOICE – Edison taught us it was never wrong, just a prototype for getting it right
FEAR – I’m afraid of success probably because I don’t know what it looks like and assume that thing will encompass me and take over my life. Maybe that I will end up being a bad person that everyone hates
CHOICE – Back to being liked. This is nothing to do with success. Success could be being liked!!! Success is what YOU chose it to be
FEAR – I’m afraid of putting myself out there and what people will say
CHOICE – Anything people say is positive, for even negative comments are learning improvement points! Embrace change!
The probelm we all have is our own mindset!
How can YOU change this situation?
- have a plan – What is it you want from life or this business?
- take a step TOWARDS your plan EVERY day
- have a routine
- look after yourself – Eat properly, exercise, have YOU time
- think positively and change your mood – Listen to music or a podcast, watch your favourite film or go for a walk
- have the right friends and peers around you – You are the sum of the 5 people you hang around with the most!
- express yourself and your opinion to be YOU!
Believe me this stuff goes through EVERYONES head at some point of running a business and every now and again it comes back but to change the situation you MUST change what you are doing…
If you’ve always do what you’ve always done,
you will ALWAYS get what you’ve always got!
Believe in yourself!
What do you do to help you change the situation, the feeling and thoughts that run through your head? Feel free to leave a comment…
I commend you for the honesty you have shown here, I only wish others were as honest. It’s true, so many people are stuck in mediocrity because they fear failure, fear success, fear different or new or unknown, yet it’s only when we step out into the unknown that anything ever changes.
I’ll offer you a thought “Why do so many people do the same thing time and time and time again expecting a different result?”…….
Thank you Jay! What would be your TOP tip to keep taking action?
What a great honest Read. Thank you Amanda! It really is good to know that I am not unique in my brain tug of wars ;)
Thank you Lynsey! Really pleased you like it and that you now know that others feel the same as you… Feel free to share your tips on overcoming the mind gremlins…
What is your biggest gremlin and how do you deal with it?
Oooooh those pervasive fears, and the more energy we give them, the more real they can seem. Thank you for your honesty and candour in sharing a few of yours, Amanda – and as any of us who you’ve helped will reassure you (and you know too, really) THEY’RE NOT REAL!! There’s no need to fight with them, argue with them, look for reasons why they might be showing up – if they’re bringing something useful (a lesson to be learned), listen. If not, try putting them on a movie screen, which has a convenient remote control. Find the pause button, freeze it, and get on with your awesome existence……
Thanks for your reply Sue… Since working with you I have learnt to gag mine. They are still there but just cannot speak! A great technique you have taught me however I may just upgrade them to be frozen in time. You had a mini video series didn’t you for helping people over come a number of things in 5 minutes. If you feel it is useful and relevant please feel free to share so that others can benefit from them.
Here’s a good multi-purpose exercise, great for changing that unhelpful inner voice, and also for resolving general overload – easy for us all to slip into when we’ve a lot of plates spinning…. http://bit.ly/1YWbVLS. Enjoy!
Thanks for sharing Sue!